You may have witnessed or heard about arguments and fighting as a major cause of relationships failing in real life, on screen, or in the media. Relationships here refer to any kind of relationship, including those between a husband and wife, a boyfriend and a girlfriend, siblings, friends, parents and children, fathers and daughters, and mothers and sons.

The issue is that people struggle and are unable to comprehend why their relationship is failing, not that they don't want to be in a relationship. There are two causes: first, a mismatch in timing caused by their schedule and priorities; second, a lack of time.

People fight for narratives and ideals, believing that their way is right, that things should be done this way, or that this is right and that is wrong. Even in a fight, talking is necessary, but this no longer occurs in modern society.

Two things are very basic in a relationship: physical appearance and dialogue. We can all think back to times with our siblings when we fought over things like the TV remote, a larger piece of cake or chocolate, gifts, or who was the favorite child. We laughed as we discussed the secrets of our first boyfriend or girlfriend, even friends. Others offered consolation as we broke up. When we talk about friends, there are numerous stories. between finding your first girlfriend and having your first kiss. And in broke up, your first drink. Your best friend is aware of everything. We fought over things like which movie to watch and where to go for a picnic. In a couple’s relationship, most arguments start with a simple, sweet, and romantic talk, and then they will fight over some issue or any topic. Couples nowadays barely even have a formal conversation because of the work shift, work pressure, and deadline. In some cases, they live in different cities or need to travel. After the tenth or twelfth grade, siblings' paths diverge to pursue careers in medicine, engineering, law, chartered accounting, civil services, government jobs, or any other field. In some cases, families send their children even before the 10^th. The same happens with friendship. No one lives together. So, the first basic condition of the relationship was gone.

Any type of relationship necessitates investment in the form of time, energy, emotions, and money. When we leave our homes, we are constantly reminded in our minds or in the back of our minds that we are here for a reason. People are initially enthusiastic about long-distance communication, calling each other, and even doing video calls. However, after some time, the frequency of calls slows and the duration of calls shortens. It's not that they don't want to, but because of the timing of their class, the work shift, and the difference in weeks off. Every job or study is difficult because there is so much pressure and cutthroat competition. You will not be able to survive in this world unless you put in the extra effort.

One of my friends who works in the media sector claims that he and his friend live in the same room but haven't spoken to each other in person in a month. Mostly through WhatsApp, they only have formal discussions. His shift is in the morning (from 7 a.m. to 3 p.m.), while his friend works the night shift (from 3 p.m. to 11 p.m.). I'll be sleeping when he arrives. My day off is on Monday, while his is on Friday. The same thing is happening to many working couples, particularly those in the media and software industries. Companies in the software industry deal with foreign clients. So, people need to work in different time zones, like American time, and European time. 

On weekdays, office parties are sometimes organized where people mostly make connections, and sometimes a colleague's birthday or anniversary consumes your time and energy. When you change jobs, people change, priorities shift, and colleagues become former colleagues. So, these relations are not stable in nature.

A relationship takes time to grow, shape, and become strong. People are struggling in this industrial society, even to meet the most basic needs of relationships. The foundation of any social relationship is conversation and physical appearance. We feel helpless and don’t know the solution.